Reject Rejection

Sylvester Stallone once said “I take rejection as someone blowing a bugle in my ear to wake me up and get going, rather than retreat. Charles Darwin once wrote of himself “I was considered by all my masters and my father, a very ordinary boy, rather below the common standard of intellect.” Perhaps they judged too soon, as Darwin today is well known for his scientific studies.

Socrates, “the gadfly of Athens,” was one of the greatest philosophers the world has ever known. He did something that only a handful of men in all history have been able to do: he sharply changed the course of human thought; and now, twenty-four centuries after his death, he is honored as one of the wisest persuaders who ever influenced this wrangling world. Despite leaving no records written behind, Socrates is regarded as one of the greatest philosopher of the classical era. Because of his new ideas, in his own time he was called an “immoral corrupter of youth” and was sentenced to death. Socrates didn’t let this stop him and kept right on, teaching up until he was force to poison himself.

If rejections could stop you, then your dream lacks power. Probably, they aren’t powerful enough. Nobody wants to be rejected, but sometimes rejection is the best thing that could happen to us. Many people suffer from low self esteem as a result of being rejected over and over again. Rejection is painful. It demoralize if it is internalize. Getting to the limelight has never been an easy task. Handling disappointments, rejections and disapproval is always part of the story.

Brian Acton and Jan Koum, the founders of Whatsapp, were also once rejected by Facebook and Twitter, they went on to write their own program which was later bought by Facebook for almost $16billion. Soichiro Honda was once rejected at Toyota, but he didn’t let that stop him because his vision was bigger than the job. He went on to start his own company which afterward became an empire. Rejection and disappointments sometimes tells you to focus on your dream. It is not about what happened to you, it’s about what you will do about it.

Our mind is always conditioned by the past events of our life or the negative stories of others that has registered in our subconscious mind. Always ask yourself, how you can use your good and bad experiences to your advantage.

Rejection can be great if well managed, because you end up learning a lot from the whole experience. Hopefully, you are able to take the things you learn and create a better version of yourself. If you are going to be successful, you are going to learn how to deal with rejections. Rejection is a natural part of life.

The greatest enemy of success is the fear of failure or the fear of been rejected. If you’re committed to a cause that evokes your passion and commitment, you keep learning from your experiences, and you stay the course to the end, irrespective of the disappointment and rejections, you will even eventually create your desired outcome. Not everybody will agree with your idea, opinion or perception because not everybody sees it the way you saw it.

Tawni O’ Dell once said “Never give up on your dream. Perseverance is all important. If you don’t have the desire and the belief in yourself to keep trying after you’ve been told you should quit, you will never make it.” Get used to the idea that there is going to be a lot of rejection along the way to the gold ring. The secret to success is not to give up.

When Colonel Harlan Sanders left home with his pressure cooker and his special recipe for cooking Southern fried chicken, he received over 300 rejections before he found someone to believe in his dream. Because he rejected rejection over 300 times, there are now more than 11,000 KFC restaurants in 80 countries around the world. If one person tells you No, ask someone else. Remember, there are over 6 billion people on the planet! Someone, somewhere, sometime will say yes.

There are countless stories of great individuals who have faced a whole lot of failures and rejection. Nevertheless, they rise to the top by rejecting rejection and learning from the experiences of their failures. Everyone who has ever made it to the top has had to endure rejections. You just have to realize they are not personal.

In 1998, Google cofounders Sergey Brin and Larry Page approached Yahoo! and suggested a merger. Yahoo! could have snapped up the company for a handful of stock, but instead they suggested that the young “Googlers” keep working on their little school project and come back when they had grown up. Within 5 years, Google had an estimated market capitalization of $20 billion. That someone rejected your proposal or request does not invalidate its authenticity. Don’t take it personal.

 Most of us have heard of the great Walt Disney and his legacy that he left behind for the world. Yet he heard “No” from virtually everybody that he spoke to when he first came up with the idea of the Mickey Mouse. They thought of his idea of a cartoon about a mouse was one of the dumbest things they had ever heard. Infact, when he went to banks to get funding for his first Walt Disney theme park, he was turned down and rejected by 302 bankers before someone finally believed in what he had to offer.

Take rejection as a number game. What are the numbers that you need? Perhaps its 1 in 302 like Disney. Don’t waste time trying to analyze the No, turned down or rejections. It would only demoralize you, before Walt Disney built the empire he has today, he was fired by a newspaper editor because “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas.”

At the age of 22, the now-TV mogul was fired from her job as a television reporter because she was “Unfit for tv.” Most people know Oprah as one of the most iconic faces on TV as well as one of the richest and most successful women in the world. Oprah faced a hard road to get to that position, however, enduring a rough and often abusive childhood as well as numerous career setbacks. Oprah Winfrey was terminated from her post as co-anchor of the 6 0’ Clock weekday news on Baltimore’s WJZ-TV after the show received low ratings. Seven years later, Winfrey moved to Chicago, where her self-title talk show went on to dominate daytime TV, and ultimately head her own channel, OWN.

After being cut from his high school basketball team, a young Michael Jordan went home and cried in the privacy of his bedroom. But Jordan didn’t let his early-in-life setback stop him from playing the game and the basketball superstar has stated, “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games on 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that’s why I succeed.”

In 1954, Elvis was still a no name performer, and Jimmy Denny, manager of the Grand Ole Opry, fired Elvis Presley after just one performance telling him “You ain’t going nowhere, son.”  You ought to go back driving a truck.” Elvis went on to become the second artists of all time.

If one hundreds failed attempt could not stop Thomas Edison from inventing the light bulb, then why should the few rejections you’ve gotten stopped you. The key is persistence, a never-say-die spirit. You’ve got to believe in the beauties of your dream. If no one sees it for you, you have to see it for yourself. It is important to understand, that, no matter how smart or how great your ideas are, someone would not still agree with them. And no matter how well structured or professional your proposals are, someone would not still agree to them either. Please note that, no matter how eloquent you are or how well researched your speeches are, someone would not still agree with you. You can’t win everybody’s vote, you can’t get everybody’s approval, you’ve got to leverage on the few yeses to make your dream a reality.

Many of us take Einstein’s name as synonymous to genius, but he didn’t always show that promise. Einstein did not speak until he was four and did not read until he was seven, causing his teachers and parents to think he was mentally handicapped, slow and anti-social. Eventually, he was expelled from school and was refuse admittance to the Zurich Polytechnic School. It might have taken him a bit longer, but most people would agree that he caught on pretty well in the end, winning the Nobel Prize and changing the face of modern physics.

Reject rejection at all cost. You don’t need everybody to agree with you. Peradventure you get some few yeses, don’t “over-celebrate” them. Don’t let yesterday’s accolades, stunts today’s creativity which might affect tomorrow’s productivity.

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Daniel Cole is an International motivational speaker, author, and a personal development coach. He is the founder of International Institute of Personal Development, South Africa. An institution established to train young and old maximize their potentials through personal development courses such as, Emotional Intelligence, Time and Life Management, Mentoring, Assertiveness, Professionalism and Business Etiquette to mention a few. For more than eight years, Daniel Cole has devoted himself to research and training of individuals and corporate organizations on capacity building and different personal development courses. As an international motivational speaker and personal development coach, he has spoken in different organizations, both religious and corporate bodies. He has spoken on emotional intelligence, business etiquette, professionalism, personal branding, relationship, individual competitiveness, network and net worth, to mention a few. He has produced different motivational CDs, both on personal development and relationships.